Sculpting Happiness During Covid Times

Now more than ever, during these “Covid” times, knowing how to find happiness from within, in order to get through the rain, seems more relevant than ever. Loneliness, social isolation, fear of the now and of the future tends to put life into perspective.

It comes as no surprise then that when most of us are asked:

“What does being happy, actually mean to you, that the normal reply is:

we’ll be happy : when this whole Covid situation is over or when I find love or finally have enough money for X or Y…” 

It continues as we set never ending obstacles in the way of happiness.

Is it not the case that the only time you and I can experience, is this very moment, right now? 

Our happiness does not depend on anything in the future or in the past, the only thing it depends on is our attitude and how we chose to see our situation right now in this very single moment.

Perhaps the confusion emanates from the interpretation of the word happiness. It’s something that should be constant our wish to reach the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow when everything will be all right.

You do know that a rainbow’s circular, right? (oops didn’t mean to disappoint ) Yes, there’s no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, 

It doesn’t mean there’s no joy in life, there is, it’s just that it’s different than the fairy tales we so want to believe where we just make a wish and live happily ever after.

Naturally because these are just that, fairy tales, there is no way that we can ever accomplish these things, and so we end up confused, unhappy, disappointed and we feel like we have failed when in fact there was no way to succeed at such a task as it didn’t exist.

The duality of life means that we can only feel happiness if we know sadness and such is life.

A spectrum of experiences that includes both joy and pain, perhaps the word happiness should be replaced with ‘gratitude’ for all that we have or ‘living in the moment’, the experiences of life happening right now because that is ultimately what gets us to that balance of joy.

American happiness researcher, author, and speaker Shawn Anchor quotes from the Buddhist and Christian ethos that “happiness is the joy you feel when moving towards your potential”

Equally Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist and holocaust survivor Dr. Victor Frankl stated that “We can discover the meaning of life in three different ways by creating a work or doing a deed, by experiencing something or encountering someone and by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering”.

It seems here in both examples that when we say we want happiness what we are really looking for is greater than that nine letter word called happiness. Our goal for “that” feeling, is a goal which is in fact far greater than us.

We’re seeking to reconnect to ourselves and to others. A connection to a greater purpose outside of our own needs and to be of service. When we learn how to do that, we can find out what true happiness means to us.

As we journey towards this greater connection, we discover that instead of looking for the answer for our joy from an external source, all we require do is search within. Now what does that really mean?

It means to be empowered to live your ultimate life from the get go rather than waiting for your tomorrow. In what ever way you CAN. It means finding something to be grateful for right NOW. This very second. Name one thing you’re grateful for right now. For one you are alive.

To sum things up, here’s a wonderful poem attributed to philosopher & writer Alfred D. Souza about living “happily right now”.

Happiness

By Alfred D. Souza

For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time to still be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special enough to spend your time. Remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting

until you finish school,

until you go back to school,

until you lose ten pounds,

until you gain ten pounds,

until you have kids,

until your kids leave the house,

until you start work,

until you retire,

until you get married,

until you get divorced,

until Friday night,

until Sunday morning,

until you get a new car or home,

until your car or home is paid off,

until spring,

until summer,

until fall,

until winter,

until you are off welfare,

until the first or fifteenth,

until your song comes on,

until you’ve had a drink,

until you’ve sobered up,

until you die,

until you are born again

to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

 

With love and light.

 

Katy xxx